Would you like some Tea?

I want to share a story that was told to me by a staff member at the Centre of Hope. It is very much a story that speaks of a seemingly small success in a BIG way. 

The Centre of Hope, thanks to NEAFAN, has a forever home for up to 4 men who have been diagnosed or are suspected of having Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder. These men live in a home with a mentor who assists them with daily basic living tasks such as: laundry, cooking and cleaning. One of our staff members would regularly go and visit the home and when she arrived would talk about what to do when they had a visitor: invite them in, offer them something to drink etc… These men had experienced chronic homelessness so this was a notion that was foreign and uncomfortable for them. 

As the staff member was telling the story she began to laugh; she said “I really just wanted tea it wasn’t really meant to be a life lesson in the beginning”; but because it was a bit overwhelming for them she saw a learning opportunity. Each time she went into the home she would have to ask to be invited in and ask for them to make her tea. One day she walked in and the men had started the kettle for her tea. SUCCESS! 

This may seem “little” or “unimportant” in the eyes of many but for our staff and patrons this is a BIG success. Success is an individual who is afraid of public places taking that first step into the Centre for help, it is that individual who is afraid to speak in public but volunteers to read our morning prayer: It is the person who believes they do not deserve a home after years of childhood trauma that is just a little bit excited on move-in day. 

“Success is not measured by what you accomplish but by the opposition you have encountered, and the courage with which you have maintained the struggle against overwhelming odds.”

~ Orison Swett Marde